Remember When Sex Was Fun?

Remember When Sex Was Fun?

Sex is supposed to be pleasurable – passion, intimacy, even a little wild abandon. But the fun quotient drops when you’re worried about getting your partner pregnant. If your family is the right size right now, have you considered a getting a vasectomy?

Sexual intercourse is an essential component of a healthy, intimate relationship. But if you or your partner are worrying about birth control – it’s not exactly the setting for romance.  You can forget spontaneity if you forget to pack a condom in your wallet. A missing diaphragm is a disaster. After a while, afterglow is long gone.

If worrying about unwanted pregnancy is killing your sex life, vasectomy is the way to bring it back to life.

When it comes to birth control, vasectomy is virtually 100% effective.  If an unwanted pregnancy is the problem – vasectomy is the most viable solution:

  • No effect on testosterone levels, sexual desire or orgasm
  • Ejaculation remains the same, just no sperm in the semen
  • Less invasive, less risky, less expensive than tubal ligation for women
  • Respond to arousal as it happens, not when you have contraception

Men who are uncomfortable considering vasectomy are normally focused on the procedure itself, not the aftermath. The idea of a surgical procedure near your penis or testicles is a bit nerve-wracking. It’s understandable to be nervous – we get it.  But the aftermath is where the fun begins.

What if you never had to worry about getting your partner pregnant again? Vasectomy makes that a reality.

Vasectomy offers peace of mind for men who don't want more children

The procedure itself is fast (around a half hour) and virtually painless. Once your semen tests comes back negative for sperm (typically 90 days), you can throw away every condom, pill, sponge or diaphragm for the rest of your life.

Vasectomy disconnects sperm production from ejaculation by closing off the tubes (vas deferens) that carry it from the testicles to the penis. But there’s already existing sperm in the mix – that’s why you need to use contraception until your semen tests are negative.

At the Pollock Clinics, we use the no scalpel, no needle methodology. The technique minimizes discomfort during and after the procedure. The incision is so small, it doesn’t even require stitches. Just a little skin glue to help it heal.

Let’s be frank – not everyone having sex is in a committed relationship.

It’s okay to acknowledge that you don’t want any more children or want any children at all. That’s a personal decision every man gets to make. But if you are having sex on a more casual basis – you need to take action to avoid an unwanted pregnancy. Vasectomy puts that decision firmly in your control.

How Do Women Feel?

Every situation is different but here are some of the circumstances women face if they don’t want to become pregnant:

  • Birth control pills work by manipulating women’s hormones. Studies show an increase in breast, cervical and liver cancer can be associated with them.
  • Younger women who don’t want any more children (or any children at all) can be refused a tubal ligation by doctors who think they may regret the decision in the future.
  • Getting your tubes tied does not eliminate the risk of pregnancy. Unfortunately, an ectopic pregnancy occurs in 1 out of 200 women, with higher risks for smokers.
  • Women don’t like condoms any more than men do.

After difficult pregnancies or issues with postpartum depression, women may be anxious about getting pregnant again. The impact on their bodies during and after pregnancy can take a toll as well.  If they stay home with the children, the disruption to their lifestyle or career can be extreme.

Associating sex with those experiences creates a natural avoidance reflex. We’re not talking about sexual dysfunction, if you are afraid of getting pregnant, it’s logical to avoid the cause.

For some couples, there are religious or cultural beliefs that affect decisions about contraception. For others, being able to provide for their children is the key factor in family planning.

And some couples aren’t interested in having kids at all.

None of these views are “wrong.”  When it comes to family planning, you and your partner need to be on the same page. Vasectomy is one of the options you can take when you’re ready for permanent birth control.

Sex After Vasectomy

Finally, the good part!  Almost every man who has had a vasectomy will tell you his sex life has improved dramatically. He can be spontaneous. When the mood hits, he can respond without any concern. He doesn’t depend on his partner to manage her their birth control.

Vasectomy lets men take charge of their reproductive decisions. No worries about unplanned pregnancy.

Anxiety can be a factor in atypical arousal response or erectile dysfunction. Once that’s gone, sex is about pleasure and connection. Your mind is in tune with your body, encouraging desire, maintaining erection and achieving orgasm.

And it’s not just men who appreciate that. Women have long borne the responsibility for preventing unplanned pregnancies. The disruption to her life – and yours – can require difficult decisions that no couple wants to make.

Once you’ve had a vasectomy, sexual fulfillment is the only thing you have to worry about.

If you have all the kids you want – or don’t want any at all – maybe it’s time to put the focus back on your sex life. A little wild abandon is good for the soul…and the relationship.

By |2018-04-06T12:21:49-07:00August 14th, 2017|Vasectomy|Comments Off on Remember When Sex Was Fun?

About the Author:

Jack Chang, MD, is a graduate of Yale University and the University of British Columbia Medical School. After completing his postgraduate training in Prince George, BC, he started his career serving rural and remote communities in BC, Yukon, and Nunavut before joining Pollock Clinics in 2014. Dr. Chang is a veteran of multiple No-Scalpel Vasectomy International (NSVI) medical missions, providing free vasectomies in developing countries such as Haiti, Kenya, and the Philippines to alleviate poverty through family planning. Dr. Chang also trains international physicians from around the world as part of the NSVI missions. He performs circumcisions using both the Pollock Technique™ and the Shang Ring technique. Dr Chang trained in China with the developers of the Shang Ring method and directed the licensing of the Shang Ring through Health Canada and performed the first case of Shang Ring circumcision in Canada. He continues to lead the introduction of this adult circumcision method in North America. He is a Clinical Instructor at the University of British Columbia Faculty of Medicine and is actively involved in teaching medical students and residents.